BLOG TOUR: Doing Scary by Donald M. Bell
Doing Scaryby Donald M. Bell
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Two marriages haunted by
betrayal. Four people whose pursuit of the American Dream has taken a
nightmarish turn.
Roman and Sage
Bryant-Cole have spent nine months trying to salvage what was left of their
marriage after it was rocked by the revelation of Roman’s serial affairs. Sage
is dealt a second blow when she discovers that her cherished cousin, Owen
Bryant, has been cheated on by his ruthless, gold-digging wife, Leah.
Sage’s discovery hits the
reset button on the progress she and Roman had been making on their marriage,
as all the doubts and fears she has tried to suppress come flooding back. In
order to reclaim Sage’s trust, and to save a love now left dangling by a
thread, Roman must take his efforts to win back his wife to another level.
Leah and Owen Bryant are
visited by a ghost from their past; Leah’s college sweetheart, Casey. Leah and
Owen must confront a dark secret at the heart of their marriage, if they are to
stand a chance of surviving as a couple.
One family’s legacy, two
marriages, four lives, and millions of dollars are at stake.
Doing Scary is
a coming of age story which explores the transition from adolescence to
adulthood and the battles we face in our thirties to keep our spiritual,
emotional and psychological progress in check, as the things we hold most dear
are put to the test.
My Review:
This book was nothing like I expected for some reason. I'm not sure what exactly it was that I was expecting but it wasn't this. This book is largely about marriages and the trials and tribulations that come with being with someone past the initial fun. And you know what? Relationships ARE scary. There are ups and downs and rarely do people these days work through the bad.
The author brings his clear experience in helping people with their relationship and/or life issues. He does this in a clear and concise way that really gets you thinking of your own relationships and if you are a parasite or a host. Affairs happen a lot in marriages. There are always two sides to the story and two people to make or break that relationship. The question comes if you can get past the infidelity and if both people are sincere in working their way forward. How easy it is to become complacent. Communication is such a key thing.
At first I felt like I was in a bit of a clinic for how to make a marriage/relationship work. As I continued on, I became invested. As one couple seem to just fall apart, the other work ... and work hard to overcome their issues. Kudos to this author bringing forth the true, raw side of marriage.
The author brings his clear experience in helping people with their relationship and/or life issues. He does this in a clear and concise way that really gets you thinking of your own relationships and if you are a parasite or a host. Affairs happen a lot in marriages. There are always two sides to the story and two people to make or break that relationship. The question comes if you can get past the infidelity and if both people are sincere in working their way forward. How easy it is to become complacent. Communication is such a key thing.
At first I felt like I was in a bit of a clinic for how to make a marriage/relationship work. As I continued on, I became invested. As one couple seem to just fall apart, the other work ... and work hard to overcome their issues. Kudos to this author bringing forth the true, raw side of marriage.
About the Author:
Donald
M. Bell Sr. is the Senior Pastor/Teacher of Covenant Blessing Fellowship (CBF)
launched out of an adult bible study 2001. Pastor Bell has been preaching since
he was sixteen and holds a professional degree in Organizational Psych.
Behavior. Bell’s profound ability to communicate spiritual principles in
secular settings has been featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show, ABC 20/20, and the
documentaries Sister I’m Sorry, and Soul Mate. He was also a weekly guest on
KJLH nationally syndicated radio program Love in the Spirit hosted by Kevin
Nash. Bell lives in a suburb of Los Angeles with his lovely wife, Michelle, who
wedded in 1994 and is the father of three.
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Excerpt:
In this excerpt,
Sage's mother is in the middle of explaining to her why she chose to live her
life the way she did after Sage openly questioned her character.
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Bottom of page 142 to the top of 143
"I don't doubt
that you say it, I just doubt that you tell it from the perspective of a
daughter who's proud of her mom's accomplishments. Do you want to know why I
didn't advance in my career? It's because the man I fell in love with and
married, your father, would not have been able to handle it. If I had pursued
my career, he would have had to change his, which would have devastated him
because unlike him, I have always had options. I could have done whatever I
wanted to do. Your father, on the other hand, is a different story. The
military or law-enforcement were the only options for a person as emotionally
unavailable and rigid as your father could work in and be successful. He was
too mathematically challenged to be a successful engineer or accountant."
Sage could hear her mother sigh heavily on the other end of
the line as Mrs. Bryant continued, "As much as I wanted to pursue my
career, I wanted my marriage to work more. I also wanted to be there for you. I
made sacrifices that matched my priorities. My lack of talking about it
reflects my acceptance of my choices which I deem as a strength, not a
weakness. Every year my principal asked me if I was ready to come out of the
classroom. Even when I retired I had people ask me if I would be willing to take
a run at a spot on the school board.
"Oh, and here's another truth for you," Mrs.
Bryant lowered her voice as if to reveal a secret. "Your father being in
the military served my purpose as much as it served his and the Marines. Even
though I'd always envisioned myself marrying a man who would be more involved
in the daily running of the house, it would not have worked out well for any of
us. Trust me, it was better he was gone for long stretches of time. It allowed
me to raise you with a reasonably soft heart towards others. The last thing the
world needed was a Jr. Sergeant Major."
Author Q&A:
Books written: 2
30 Days of Spiritual Detox – a small devotional and the soon to
be released Doing Scary
30 Days of Spiritual Detox blurb
When was the last time you truly, thoroughly, and honestly looked
into your own heart? Rediscover your authentic spiritual self with Donald M.
Bell Sr.’s new book, Thirty
Days of Spiritual Detox: Healing for the Hardened, Hurried, and Harassed Heart.
Bell knows that the best way to improve one’s relationship with God is to spend time
examining the physical and spiritual anchor that keeps us all connected. His
thirty-day program is designed to do just that. Each day brings a single topic
representing a vital spiritual discipline. These disciplines all profoundly
influence human behavior at the “heartful” level—that is, the level that
impacts both our relationship with God and our interactions with those around
us.
Each day, those willing to cast an introspective gaze into their
hearts will be tasked with minor lifestyle changes that add up to big spiritual
rewards. By focusing on interacting with others genuinely and engagingly, your
relationships with family, friends, and coworkers will noticeably improve.
What is the most
difficult part of your writing process? Your writing Kryptonite?
For me, it is not one thing in particular as much as it is a
state I have to guard against. Having attention deficit disorder is the biggest
threat to my writing. Staying focus is the greatest challenge because my mind
drifts so easily. Email, internet, trip the refrigerator, an interruption by a
family are all shiny objects when it comes to my writing
Do you have any strange writing habits?
I have to know what the cover is going to look like before I can
write
I have to write something down in the morning to set up my
afternoon and evening writing. I find that I am the most creative in the
morning – there’s a brief
window form about 4 am to sunrise where my creative juices flow without a
problem but only for about an hour stretch within that time frame. Then, poof,
it is gone. From six to twelve in the evening my focus peaks and I can expand
on what I came up with in the morning. If I don’t get anything down in the morning, then all my mind does is
race.
What is your least
favorite part of the writing/publishing process? Favorite part?
Battling the editor in your head, along with people asking you
when is the book coming out.
Is there one particular subject you would never write
about as an author? What is it?
The only thing I would never write about is something I did not
have an immersive passion for – otherwise,
all bets are off
Does a big ego help or hurt writers?
I think a big ego hurts you in the writing because it crowds out
the people in the story in the same way it does in real life. On the flipside,
I think I big ego helps when it comes to the marketing phase of the writing – I
wish I had more of that thick skin salesman in me.
What was an early experience where you learned that
language had power?
It was my first conscious recollection of listening to Martin
Luther King speak. As a child, I had no clue about the depth and ramifications
of anything he was talking about I just knew he felt it deeply and that touched
me.
How many unpublished/half-finished books do you have?
Now you are getting into my personal business. As much as I want
to say that is none of your business the answer is somewhere around 30-40.
What are you working on now? What is your next project?
Two workbooks based on the principles outlined in My Novel doing
Scary after that I’ll write a
sequel to Doing Scary.
What kind of research do you do, and how long do you spend
researching before beginning a book?
It depends on the topic if it is something I feel comfortable
with then not a lot. But if it is something I am not then I want to take a
deep, immersive dive – at that point, my research is more about my curiosity than
it is about informing the writing. It is a definite overkill situation.
What's the most difficult thing about writing
characters from the opposite sex?
Because I write from the perspective that each character is
someone I know and have a real relationship with I don’ t struggle with elements of their gender.
If I’m writing and sex of a
character becomes a barrier, I would feel like I stop writing at the heart
level. It probably doesn’t
hurt that I have had strong sibling level relationships with the opposite sex
for the entirety of my life and I have been in ministry for nearly 40 years.
If you could cast the characters of any of your books
for a movie, who would play your characters?
That’s a hard
one – I have thought about it and I have vacillated back and forth.
For the character of Roman: Laz Alsonso
For Mrs. Bryant
Vanessa Williams
For Coach Blair Underwood
If you didn't like writing books, what would you do for
a living?
Ministry
As a writer, what would you choose as your
mascot/avatar/spirit animal?
It would be the African hound hands down, because of the way they
do relationship. They are not the biggest, fastest or the strongest predators
yet they are the most cooperative and efficient – extreme capacity to share.
Even their wounded share in the kill even if they can't hunt.
What literary character is most like you?
Dorothy of the Wizard of Oz because of her ability to adjust –
“Toto where not I Kansas anymore” and her ability to get the most out of
people. No Heart, No brain, No courage, no problem.
What authors have inspired you?
Paul Tillich
Henry Nouwen
Aw Pink
Michael Crichton
Do you hide any secrets in your books that only a few
people will find?
There are two, and no I’m not saying what they are.
Have you edited out anything from either series that
you wish you had kept?
No
What's your favorite under-appreciated novel?
The World According to Garp
What's the funniest thing that has happened to you
recently?
I miss pronounced a groom’s name performing a wedding. What makes it funny is I did because I
had a song stuck in my head that repeated the name Tyrone over and over
again.
If you could paint a picture of any scenery you've seen
before, what would you paint?
Big Sur of the coast of California
If you could witness any event past, present or future,
what would it be?
I am not sure – I want to say something deep, but honestly, it
would be watching the Steelers win another Super Bowl.
If you could be any fictional character, who would you
choose?
I would be Batman without the depression, moodiness, isolation,
dysfunctional relationship with cat women, the pressure to save the city or the
rivalry with Superman.
Which celebrity do people say you resemble?
For me, it’s
sometimes Ice cube or Jerome Bettis former football player
What would you name the autobiography of your life?
Ironically – it would be do
What songs are included on the soundtrack to your life?
Amazing grace
Sly and the family Stone’s thank you for let me be myself
White Snake-Here I go again
What did you do growing up that got you into trouble?
Talking too much – asking too many questions to be specific
What's the best/worst gift you've ever given/received?
Best gift given would be
my wife’s 10-year upgraded
wedding ring
Worst gift given I do not want to say because it is still as
secret
Worst gift ever received was a crystal cigarette lighter – I do
not nor have I ever smoked – tied with that would be a picture of an
ex-girlfriend who was an ex at the time she gave me a picture of herself after
we broke-up. Framed and everything.
What do you miss most about being a kid?
Christmas, school, and playing till the streetlights came
on. Aside from that not much
What is something you learned in the last week?
I’m too old to
climb fences – don’t ask.
What's one piece of advice you have received that has
always resonated with you?
It wasn’t
advice so much as it was an observation – Don’t argue with crazy because you only validate the crazy.
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